Most people, including myself, have been brought up into
an environment that has conditioned us to create the worst habit ever! We have been taught to use this one word so
wrong that it gets in our way, hurts us, ruins so much, causes pain, and makes
our lives miserable!
What am I talking about, what is this thing I am
referring to?
CONTROL
What is control and how is it that it causes so many
issues? Because we were never taught how
to use it. For most people this word is an illusion, something that is
impossible, BUT that is only because we never learned what it really is and
how/when to use it. Everything you think you know about control, you need to
forget. What we have learned needs to
be unlearned, the habits we have need to be changed with new habits. Once you
realize how to properly use control then your world will start falling into
place. This is something that is going
to take lots of practice, time, and effort. They say it takes 21 days to
develop a new habit and 21 months to develop a new lifestyle. Most of you will read this and it will hit
you! You will be confident that you can
maintain this new behavior and think all they have to do is change an old habit
for a new one then they will be successful. FALSE!!!! For 3 weeks YOU HAVE to consistently be
mindful how you are acting and reacting and in time this will become easier to
do. In 3 months you should reach your goal on understanding how to use
"control" the right way. Just
as you think you are set, things in life happen, and you start falling into the
same old habit you had before.
So how are we all using "CONTROL" wrong? Most
people try to control the wrong things. We try to control the things that are
impossible to control and do not control the one and only thing that we can
truly control, OURSELVES.
We try to control everything and everyone around us, yet
the only thing we can really control is ourselves. This goes for everything in
our lives. Once we give up trying to control the things that we could NEVER
control and learn to control ourselves then we will finally be in control of
our lives.
I am going to leave you with just a few examples today on
how we use control the wrong way (I will write about this subject on and off to
give examples). You cannot control the future, the past is gone all you can do
is live in the moment. Once you start worrying about what WILL happen you are
trying to control something you have no hope of doing. You cannot control how
other people act, what they say or do, how they think or behave. The only thing
you can do is control how you react to whatever they do/say/react/act etc. When
you get into an argument, most people fight for control which is why you are
arguing, BUT what you are NOT doing is controlling yourself, which if you were,
you would not be in an argument. You fight to try and win when all you are
doing is losing. You lost control of yourself and made yourself upset. Realize
one thing and it will bring you more peace; NO ONE else
can make you upset, mad or do anything YOU do not want to do.
Excellent post!
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